Conversationally Speaking: Tested New Ways to Increase


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  1. Rose Rose says:

    The book is thin and to the point It gives great conversational techniques I would recommend the book to those as young as 14 years old That is just about the age when teens get a part time job This book would really help their transition into the working world Chapter 10 teaches how to identify who owns the problem if there is a disagreement it then goes on about how to request a change Chapter 9 is about resisting attempts at manipulation, has a great way to teach froth graders how to The book is thin and to the point It gives great conversational techniques I would recommend the book to those as young as 14 years old That is just about the age when teens get a part time job This book would really help their transition into the working world Chapter 10 teaches how to identify who owns the problem if there is a disagreement it then goes on about how to request a change Chapter 9 is about resisting attempts at manipulation, has a great way to teach froth graders how to say no to drugs one page, simplifies the entire chapter and puts in terms for children Coming from a family that didn t communicate well, I found this book very helpful and a great foundation to build upon


  2. Marie Marie says:

    Great book not just for conversation, but physical cues and insights to others ways of thinking.


  3. Peter Whitney Peter Whitney says:

    I was reading an interview with Nathan Fillion and he was asked what book he d most likey give as a gift He mentioned two, the first being World War Z which I ve read and love The other being this book Now having met the man, and listened to him do commentary as well as watching behind the scenes and making ofs the man is very charismatic and outgoing I don t know if it is because of this book, if this book strengthened those features, or what But I figured because of his personality it c I was reading an interview with Nathan Fillion and he was asked what book he d most likey give as a gift He mentioned two, the first being World War Z which I ve read and love The other being this book Now having met the man, and listened to him do commentary as well as watching behind the scenes and making ofs the man is very charismatic and outgoing I don t know if it is because of this book, if this book strengthened those features, or what But I figured because of his personality it couldn t hurt to read it.Granted there are things in here that you will already know, there are some things in here that you think can help you, and eventhings you don t think about In my case, I have a hard time accepting compliments and this book touched on how to deal with people like me, and how to accept compliments As for why four and not five stars if this is very helpful and a nice breezy read It has nothing to do with the fact that I already knew stuff in here It hasto do with both the dated examples this was written in the late 9os and some of the awkwardness of them


  4. Nicholas Nicholas says:

    I needed a book that would help me master the art of conversation, and this book was a great place to start It went over everything one needs to become a skilled conversationalist, including asking questions that promote conversation, listening so others will talk, and the hardest one for me starting conversations It discussed nonverbal aspects of conversing too, and finally answered a question I ve had for forever how long to keep eye contact Answer one to ten seconds.I actually got a c I needed a book that would help me master the art of conversation, and this book was a great place to start It went over everything one needs to become a skilled conversationalist, including asking questions that promote conversation, listening so others will talk, and the hardest one for me starting conversations It discussed nonverbal aspects of conversing too, and finally answered a question I ve had for forever how long to keep eye contact Answer one to ten seconds.I actually got a chance to put what I learned here into practice shortly before finishing the book I went to a queer friend mixer at a vegan bar bookstore, and it really worked I found myself picking up free information and asking questions that kept the conversation going


  5. Aliya Aliya says:

    I ordered three books on improving social skills, after days of scouring .com This book was one of the three.I had high expectations from this book, reading the rave reviews, however, I did not find any life altering strategies in it The book is a very good read for the socially challenged However, for those who are fairly functional socially, the book does offer a few good tips, but nothing outstanding.


  6. Charles Lau Charles Lau says:

    Thoroughly impressed by Garner s book What stood out to me most was how succinct this book was clear, actionable tips were given each chapter and were followed by examples There was simply no BS and it got straight to the point the whole book reads like a mini guidebook which I really like, and it is a great reference The book was loaded was info Some of my favorite points were the focus on utilizing free information, handling criticism gracefully agree and self disclose , catastrophizing Thoroughly impressed by Garner s book What stood out to me most was how succinct this book was clear, actionable tips were given each chapter and were followed by examples There was simply no BS and it got straight to the point the whole book reads like a mini guidebook which I really like, and it is a great reference The book was loaded was info Some of my favorite points were the focus on utilizing free information, handling criticism gracefully agree and self disclose , catastrophizing Favorite quote Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views they take of them Important to have an optimistic perspective to shut out the inner demons I recommend pairing this book with How To Win Friends and Influence People, which elaborates a biton these concepts


  7. Katie Katie says:

    Page 69 members of the opposite sex who are attracted to you may show you in several additional ways, such as combing their hair, straightening their clothes, rubbing some part of their bodies on an object like a cup or a chair Guess I ve been doing it all wrong


  8. jp jp says:

    First few pages are about difference between Close ended vs Open ended quetions Now I know why some convesations between two person suddenly become awkward and boring eventhough both want to have converasation going.


  9. Jennifer Jennifer says:

    I read this to have some specific ideas to help a couple of my socially anxious non conversational kiddos Good examples, and a nice chapter on Reducing Anxiety in Social Situations Worth the read, and a quick read as well.


  10. Danielle Danielle says:

    Quick read that offers great examples and techniques to improve your conversation and communication skills I would consider myself a socially apt and self aware person but have felt my social skills with strangers deteriorate, so I found this book extremely helpful


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Conversationally Speaking: Tested New Ways to Increase Your Personal and Social Effectiveness A NEW FEMALE CO AUTHOR We are delighted to announce that beginning in the Fall of , Dr Amanda Goodwin, an Associate Professor of Communications Arts at Penn State, known as the nation sschool for teaching social skills, will become the lead co author of an updated Conversationally Speaking Rated by her students as amazing, she will bring a greater female dimension to the book This is an updated cover edition of This is the most popular book in the world teaching conversational skills More than a million people have learned the secrets of effective conversation using Conversationally Speaking This revised edition provides ways to improve conversational skills by asking questions that promote conversation, learning how to listen so that others will be encouraged to talk, reducing anxiety in social situations andCo author Alan Garner, MA, is a nationally known communications consultant and a longtime teacher He has taught hundreds of Conversationally Speaking workshops and overmillion copies of his books have been sold worldwide This book teaches simple skills for doing well socially in everyday language, which is why it has been popular in its various editions foryears and has soldmillion copiesToastmaster Magazine writes Conversationally Speaking is the classic how to book in social communication Carolyn Hax, a columnist for the Washington Post whose work appears innewpapers, wrote Alan Garner is brilliant at teaching social skills to those who need or want to start at the beginning who feel they somehow missed out on life classes that everyone else got to attend Conversationally Speaking is recommended by hundreds of therapists for people who want better relationships These include Dr Albert Ellis, the founder of the Rational Emotive School of Psychology, who called this book An exceptionally clear, highly effective book on conversational skills that uniquely includes a very sensible and useful section on rational thinking Aaron Beck, MD, University Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania wrote Conversationally Speaking is of great value for people who want to sharpen their skills in interpersonal relations I routinely recommend it ➹ [Read] ➵ Gender in Psychoanalytic Space By Muriel Dimen ➼ – 9facts.co.uk Dr Amanda Goodwin ❮Download❯ ➵ Insight and Interpretation Author Roy Schafer – 9facts.co.uk an Associate Professor of Communications Arts at Penn State ➼ [Reading] ➾ Good People in an Evil Time By Svetlana Broz ➱ – 9facts.co.uk known as the nation sschool for teaching social skills ❰Reading❯ ➼ On a Day Like This Author Peter Stamm – 9facts.co.uk will become the lead co author of an updated Conversationally Speaking Rated by her students as amazing [PDF] ✎ Heart to Start ✐ Derek Handley – 9facts.co.uk she will bring a greater female dimension to the book This is an updated cover edition of This is the most popular book in the world teaching conversational skills More than a million people have learned the secrets of effective conversation using Conversationally Speaking This revised edition provides ways to improve conversational skills by asking questions that promote conversation ✅ [PDF / Epub] ☉ Light without Fire By Scott Korb ⚣ – 9facts.co.uk learning how to listen so that others will be encouraged to talk ❰EPUB❯ ✺ Secrecy Author Rupert Thomson – 9facts.co.uk reducing anxiety in social situations andCo author Alan Garner [PDF / Epub] ✅ The Silence and the Roar By Nihad Sirees – 9facts.co.uk MA ☀ [PDF / Epub] ★ Hard Country By Robin Robilliard ✍ – 9facts.co.uk is a nationally known communications consultant and a longtime teacher He has taught hundreds of Conversationally Speaking workshops and overmillion copies of his books have been sold worldwide This book teaches simple skills for doing well socially in everyday language [PDF / Epub] ✑ The Whale Rider ☄ Witi Ihimaera – 9facts.co.uk which is why it has been popular in its various editions foryears and has soldmillion copiesToastmaster Magazine writes Conversationally Speaking is the classic how to book in social communication Carolyn Hax [KINDLE] ✽ The Impossible David Lynch By Todd McGowan – 9facts.co.uk a columnist for the Washington Post whose work appears innewpapers ❰Ebook❯ ➣ The Colour Encyclopedia Of Incredible Aeroplanes Author Philip J. 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About the Author: Alan Garner

I teach these skills because I once needed to learn them and nobody was there to help me I had no friends, was not at all socially confident, was wandering around Europe after having dropped out of UCLA because of loneliness and depression One day I stumbled upon an article about some universities which were teaching conversation skills to groups like men who never date, women who have no friends, and couples who seldom talk to each other After learning these skills, the men, women and couples all did considerably better.I was intrigued, and made it a point to learn these skills upon my return Much to my amazement, they worked It was as though I d been trying to drink soup with a fork or cut a steak with a spoon the wrong tools Once I had the right tools, the right skills, things went considerably smoother.My life improved so dramatically, I decided to dedicate myself to teaching these skills to others I finished UCLA and went to a master s program at the University of Oregon that focused on teaching social skills After I graduated, I returned to California, got a job teaching speech at a junior college, and devoted the rest of my time to teaching these skills to students at community service and university extension programs throughout the state I also began training others to teach these skills and began working on Conversationally Speaking, the book you now have in your hands or in your Kindle.There s a special chapter there Chapter 12 that I want to draw your attention to In it, I attempt to summarize what Dr Albert Ellis and Dr Aaron Beck, the modern founders of cognitive therapy, teach about becoming less shy andconfident I m especially interested that you read that chapter and proud that both Drs were kind enough to endorse this book.It s now many years later and I and others have taught these skills all over the world Conversationally Speaking has become the most popular book ever written for teaching social skills with almost 1 million copies sold Foreign editions have sprouted up with strange names like Talk Language and Communiceren and Samtaleteknik.I m 67 years old now and mostly a writer There s talk of my doing a new 4th edition, though I think the one you ve got in your hands is quite adequate I do hope you enjoy this book and practice the skills I teach in it Being able to teach you was always my dream.