I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind

I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships What if making one tweak to your day to day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life In thishour, conversational read, you ll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable yet surprisingly little known communication skills validationWhether you re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your lifeMastery of this simple skill will enable you to Calm and sometimes even eliminate the concerns, fears, and uncertainties of othersIncrease feelings of love, respect, and appreciation in your romantic relationshipsQuickly resolve, or even prevent, argumentsHelp others become open to your point of viewGive advice and feedback that sticksProvide support and encouragement to others, even when you don t know how to fix the problemAnd much In short this skill is powerful Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you ll be amazed at the difference they can make [EPUB] ✵ Muerte en Hamburgo (Jan Fabel, Author Craig Russell – 9facts.co.uk conversational read ❮Download❯ ➵ Jazz Age Stories Author F. Scott Fitzgerald – 9facts.co.uk you ll discover the whats [Read] ➮ Much Obliged, Jeeves Author P.G. Wodehouse – 9facts.co.uk whys [KINDLE] ❅ The Wrong Blood By Manuel de Lope – 9facts.co.uk and hows of one of the most valuable yet surprisingly little known communication skills validationWhether you re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse ❰PDF❯ ✓ The Customer-Funded Business Author John W. Mullins – 9facts.co.uk navigate difficult conversations at work [PDF] ⚣ The Affair ✯ Emma Kavanagh – 9facts.co.uk or connect on a deeper level with friends and family ☆ [PDF / Epub] ★ Summer People & The Little House By Shirley Jackson ✩ – 9facts.co.uk this book delivers simple ☉ [PDF / Epub] ☆ Beautiful Creatures By Lulu Taylor ❤ – 9facts.co.uk practical ❮KINDLE❯ ➜ Dr. Simon Forman ❤ Author Judith Cook – 9facts.co.uk proven techniques for improving any relationship in your lifeMastery of this simple skill will enable you to Calm and sometimes even eliminate the concerns ❰KINDLE❯ ❅ Susannah (Sunfire, Author Candice Ransom – 9facts.co.uk fears [Reading] ➹ An Obsession with Cigar Box Guitars ➯ David Sutton – 9facts.co.uk and uncertainties of othersIncrease feelings of love [EPUB] ✹ The Folded Earth: A Novel Auteur Anuradha Roy – 9facts.co.uk respect ➲ Charity Girl Read ➺ Author Georgette Heyer – 9facts.co.uk and appreciation in your romantic relationshipsQuickly resolve ❰Ebook❯ ➠ Confession (Daniel Jacquot, Author Martin O& – 9facts.co.uk or even prevent ➩ Sisters of Treason (The Tudor Trilogy, Ebook ➯ Author Elizabeth Fremantle – 9facts.co.uk argumentsHelp others become open to your point of viewGive advice and feedback that sticksProvide support and encouragement to others [Reading] ➽ Sisters of Treason ➳ Elizabeth Fremantle – 9facts.co.uk even when you don t know how to fix the problemAnd much In short this skill is powerful Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you ll be amazed at the difference they can make


10 thoughts on “I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships

  1. Robin (Bridge Four) Robin (Bridge Four) says:

    Audible Daily Deal 9 16 19 for 1.95I ve only read a few self help style books, but I m trying to improve my communication style not only in my own relationship but in my new job as a supervisor, so I ve been on the lookout for something that would fit into that category and this fit the billBeing listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected Richard Carlson There are some great things about this Audible Daily Deal 9 16 19 for 1.95I ve only read a few self help style books, but I m trying to improve my communication style not only in my own relationship but in my new job as a supervisor, so I ve been on the lookout for something that would fit into that category and this fit the billBeing listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected Richard Carlson There are some great things about this book First, is the length The author comes right out and says that nothing bothers himthan a book that takes 300 pages to say something that could have been said in 50 So this is short and sweet, the author gets to the point gives some examples and moves on I appreciate that being that I like my fluff in fiction and not self help books Second, is the language Since the author is not a therapist or has a bunch of letters after his name this reads well The concept of validation is distilled down to layman s language and it is easy to get There are some real world examples that help solidify every concept or step and they feel natural with everyday verbage that I could see myself sayingvalidation in the context of interpersonal skills, anyway is the act of recognizing and affirming the validity or worth of a person s emotions Essentially, validation means saying to someone, I hear you I get what you re feeling, and it s perfectly alright to feel that wayThird, for me was the biggest Just because you validate an emotion does not mean that you agree I ve struggled with this one in the past the most Just because you are acknowledging how a person is feeling and telling them you understand the feelings they are having does not mean that you agree with what is making them feel that way Validation is not saying you re right I still struggle with this but it is a work in progress.Overall this had some great tips for where to start on your journey to learning how to listen to people differently in a conversation and understand where they are coming from It pointed out how some of our initial responses to situations, while trying to be helpful, might really invalidate someone s feelings I liked that this was short and sweet and gave me things to work on in my day to day life without all the fluff and fodder I ve found in some other books of this type Even thought Michael isn t a phycologist or therapist I thought his 4 step program and distillation of the information from his many years of therapy was really good and useful


  2. Dee Arr Dee Arr says:

    A few jobs ago, I attended a two day work seminar which consisted of educating managers and supervisors how to motivate employees and build a strong team One section dealt with communication techniques, particularly with folks who were anywhere along the mildly upset to angry spectrum One of the key points to having a successful outcome involved validating the other person I wasn t sure if author Michael S Sorensen would have anything new to add, but as Les Brown said, It s always good to b A few jobs ago, I attended a two day work seminar which consisted of educating managers and supervisors how to motivate employees and build a strong team One section dealt with communication techniques, particularly with folks who were anywhere along the mildly upset to angry spectrum One of the key points to having a successful outcome involved validating the other person I wasn t sure if author Michael S Sorensen would have anything new to add, but as Les Brown said, It s always good to be reminded of what you know I am glad to say that, not only did I receive a reminder, but Mr Sorensen added a fewideas that I can add to my conversation toolbox The advice he offers are not tricks, but tried and true methods that work These suggestions can be used anywhere, anytime, at home with family including children or at work with co workers The author includes sections to address some of the specific issues you might encounter when dealing with a young child or a peer who has misjudged your actions and publicly criticized you He also includes many examples to demonstrate how his methods can be employed in everyday conversations.One item I really appreciated was that the author did not artificially inflate his book with unnecessary chapters or words His writing is succinct, to the point, with just enough said so you can understand and immediately begin using these ideas Recommended for anyone who finds in daily conversations with other people Five stars.My thanks to GoodReads, where I won this book in a Giveaway Contest and, after reading it, I chose to write a review


  3. Macayla Fryc Macayla Fryc says:

    Despite the absolute fundamental application of this validation principle, I ve never heard it spoken of in all my years of communication study What a pity because incorporating validation will absolutely 110% improve relationships, which is a truly exciting thought Who DOESN T want to understand Who DOESN T want to be understood At it s essence, validation is offering the affirmation every human being unconsciously seeks The only reason I could think of that it would be overlooked in liter Despite the absolute fundamental application of this validation principle, I ve never heard it spoken of in all my years of communication study What a pity because incorporating validation will absolutely 110% improve relationships, which is a truly exciting thought Who DOESN T want to understand Who DOESN T want to be understood At it s essence, validation is offering the affirmation every human being unconsciously seeks The only reason I could think of that it would be overlooked in literature would be that it s so basic, so integral, authors must not deem it complicated enough to write about Again, a pity.As my own proof of how strongly I feel,I Hear Youhas been highlighted, marked up, noted, and will be placed next to my very few other to re read books, once it s made the rounds of everyone I recommended it to I won this book off a Giveaway and am genuinely glad I did


  4. Isabelle | Nine Tale Vixen Isabelle | Nine Tale Vixen says:

    Won through a Goodreads giveaway Thank you to author Michael Sorensen for providing me a free e copy The introduction was a little off putting it s very clear that, as Sorensen himself states, he doesn t have much experience as a writer overly descriptive language, cliches, excessive italics, and multiple grammatical errors whose whose, their there they re Most relevantly, the suggested lines and dialogue samples don t quite read as natural, which doesn t help his point about using them Won through a Goodreads giveaway Thank you to author Michael Sorensen for providing me a free e copy The introduction was a little off putting it s very clear that, as Sorensen himself states, he doesn t have much experience as a writer overly descriptive language, cliches, excessive italics, and multiple grammatical errors whose whose, their there they re Most relevantly, the suggested lines and dialogue samples don t quite read as natural, which doesn t help his point about using them to replace the standard platitudes It could be worse, etc But he s clearly done some research and admits upfront that the book is primarily based on personal experience rather than scientific backing, which doesn t completely invalidate his advice but does make it less credible, especially since the majority of his example conversations are completely theoretical Not that I m an expert either, but I had some fundamental disagreements with some of his suggestions Explaining that you relate to the other person s experience is all well and good, but not enough emphasis was given to how easy it is to make it about yourself and I thought his examples did fall on that side, even if he does redirect to his conversational partner at the end And as I understand I statements, the point isn t to preface exactly what you were going to say otherwise I feel that you never take out the trash, for example, will probably still put the addressee on the defensive but rather to reframe the situation I feel like my time isn t valued because I end up having to do most of the chores If you could take out the trash earlier, it would help Thankfully this book was a short one, the kind you can get through in a single sitting Which is intentional, so you can immediately start applying his Four Step Method in real life a little presumptuous, but I guess it s a fair assumption that you picked up this book because you wanted to read what he had to say


  5. Narilka Narilka says:

    Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart Richard CarlsonSuch a simple concept and yet it seems like the need frequently goes unmet Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is obviously listening to the words you re saying but didn t seem to get what you meant Or understood your point and were obviously disconnected from the emotion or weight of the situation I Hear You by Michael S Sorensen is all about the power of validation and how to use Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart Richard CarlsonSuch a simple concept and yet it seems like the need frequently goes unmet Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is obviously listening to the words you re saying but didn t seem to get what you meant Or understood your point and were obviously disconnected from the emotion or weight of the situation I Hear You by Michael S Sorensen is all about the power of validation and how to use it in your life I have to say this little book is fantastic Sorensen explains the problem and common traps we fall into, how we re unknowingly invaldiating by trying to jump straight to giving advice or negate a persons feelings with phrases like you ll be fine or that s not true, you did great and the like It explains why these conversations feel like they re unsatisfying He then offers a very simple, easy to follow solution that I ve already started incorporating into my daily life I m really glad I read this and would recommend it to others I won this book for free in a Goodreads giveaway


  6. Becky Becky says:

    I received this book through a Goodreads giveawayThis book is a concise review of essential listening skills It does not, as many personal development books do, spend a lot of time explaining why you might want to read the book acquire these skills this always frustrates me You ve already got me as a reader Let s get right to the substance Short and sweet without claiming to reveal anything terribly new, this is the kind of book I appreciate to help me to review and recalibrate Am I the k I received this book through a Goodreads giveawayThis book is a concise review of essential listening skills It does not, as many personal development books do, spend a lot of time explaining why you might want to read the book acquire these skills this always frustrates me You ve already got me as a reader Let s get right to the substance Short and sweet without claiming to reveal anything terribly new, this is the kind of book I appreciate to help me to review and recalibrate Am I the kind of listener who leaves others feeling validated Or do I blunder in with advice before knowing whether my advice is wanted or even based on the whole story If I had children I think I would use this book to help me teach them interpersonal skills As it is I ll be glad to have it on my kindle to reread and double check myself


  7. Anders Brabaek Anders Brabaek says:

    The book in a nutshell 1 Empathize2 Validate their emotionsAnd then, if requested3 Provide your perspective recommendations 4 Finish with final validationMost often only 1 and 2 is needed Providing perspectives and advice without validating people s emotions and recognizing that their emotions are understandable acceptable is a frequent flaw committed by most people.I found the above convincing and payingattention to validating people s feelings and emotions is surely sound advice T The book in a nutshell 1 Empathize2 Validate their emotionsAnd then, if requested3 Provide your perspective recommendations 4 Finish with final validationMost often only 1 and 2 is needed Providing perspectives and advice without validating people s emotions and recognizing that their emotions are understandable acceptable is a frequent flaw committed by most people.I found the above convincing and payingattention to validating people s feelings and emotions is surely sound advice The author overplays and simplify John Gottman s relationship theories He provides very little advice beyond the above which he however exemplifies fairly well.It is an OK short read but it is very limited in scope


  8. Emily Housworth Emily Housworth says:

    Thanks, Macayla for the recommendation book loan This was a really easy and practical read and will make you excited to be a better listener and thus a better friend or spouse or coworker or what have you Time to put those phones away and practice some good ol fashioned listening and validation


  9. Aryeh Aryeh says:

    I wishself help books were like this There is hardly an extra word here, it recognizes nuance where it exists, and it reflects the conclusions of the research, not just the author s opinion and experience Sorenson s steps for listening include How to Listen empathically How to engage in Micro and Macro ValidationHow to Ask for Permission and how to Give Feedback How to Validate Again it s worth repeating and how to Validate VulnerabilityIt may be that you have intuited some of what is I wishself help books were like this There is hardly an extra word here, it recognizes nuance where it exists, and it reflects the conclusions of the research, not just the author s opinion and experience Sorenson s steps for listening include How to Listen empathically How to engage in Micro and Macro ValidationHow to Ask for Permission and how to Give Feedback How to Validate Again it s worth repeating and how to Validate VulnerabilityIt may be that you have intuited some of what is in this book But even if you get a lot of complements on your listening skills, this book is worth your time I will certainly be re reading it I implore you to listen to me and reading this book on listening Hear me when I say you won t regret it p


  10. Redcheeks64 ALFORD Redcheeks64 ALFORD says:

    Loved the book It had me to reevaluate my relationships.This is a great self help book


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