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Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving 10 starsThis is the best and most helpful book I ve ever read and reading it was the most encouraging thing I ve done in years.Finally someone understands me Finally I don t feel like a lost case, a weird psycho, the only one in the universe suffering from an array of psychological problems that sometimes show for no obvious reason.This book gave me hope which I lacked for years There s a very long and difficult journey in front of me, but I don t mind After reading this book, I know there s 10 starsThis is the best and most helpful book I ve ever read and reading it was the most encouraging thing I ve done in years.Finally someone understands me Finally I don t feel like a lost case, a weird psycho, the only one in the universe suffering from an array of psychological problems that sometimes show for no obvious reason.This book gave me hope which I lacked for years There s a very long and difficult journey in front of me, but I don t mind After reading this book, I know there s a hope and solution for me I would highly recommend this book It is written by someone who suffers from CPTSD At times, the text might feel superfluous, but in fact, it is good for explaining the points the author is making.WARNING It can be a very triggering read I found that I could only read it in small bits And, at times, triggering is healing You have to be ready to look at yourself and be willing to accept truths as you read them.The books is well written The insight very helpful Add this to other modes of h I would highly recommend this book It is written by someone who suffers from CPTSD At times, the text might feel superfluous, but in fact, it is good for explaining the points the author is making.WARNING It can be a very triggering read I found that I could only read it in small bits And, at times, triggering is healing You have to be ready to look at yourself and be willing to accept truths as you read them.The books is well written The insight very helpful Add this to other modes of healing and if you re looking to work through your own trauma, it will be well worth your time We all are familiar with PTSD Most often in the news concerning returning veterans Walker s books is about Complex PTSD cPTSD The added c essentially extends many of the ideas of trauma recovery to childhood developmental traumas Most specifically childhood traumas arising from poor parenting and troubled home environments It is delineated by common features emotional flashbacks unlike PTSD there is not usually visual component , toxic shame directly drawing from the work of John Bra We all are familiar with PTSD Most often in the news concerning returning veterans Walker s books is about Complex PTSD cPTSD The added c essentially extends many of the ideas of trauma recovery to childhood developmental traumas Most specifically childhood traumas arising from poor parenting and troubled home environments It is delineated by common features emotional flashbacks unlike PTSD there is not usually visual component , toxic shame directly drawing from the work of John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You, self abandonment carrying on abandonment with self sabotage even when out of toxic environment , a vicious inner critic typically turned against self and not those who screwed you over and social anxiety A common result of toxic parenting is feeling of abandonment and depression, which turns to fear and shame, this activates an overly defensive toxic inner critic, which relentlessly moves us into an adrenaline fueled fight fight response Over time this can lead to naming a few low self esteem, low self compassion, little motivation and insidiously repeating the bad relationship dynamics with problems like codependency Walker expands the fight flight response into what he calls the 4F s.The 4F s are as follows Fight a narcissistic dominance of others, Flight anxious productivity, Freeze disassociation into right brain fantasizing or even left brain intellectualizing , and Fawning trying to be pleasing or helpful to forestall rejection and angry responses All are often accompanied by social isolation that only reinforces the shame and fear.It is not real necessary to spend too much time figuring out which one may apply because they are inexact and vary in degrees and can work together But, the fundamentals of Walker s relationship therapy apply to all of them In part, turning shame, that is essentially blame turned wrongly against the self, to the real source.Flashbacks and the inner critic are the driving forces from trauma rooted in abandonment issues Childhood abuse both physical, and that resulting from neglect where nobody was ever physically harmed, create an understandable reaction A child by nature compensates for the weaknesses of parents like soothing the violent household by being overly agreeable fawning and being vigilant for signs of violent behavior, parenting siblings for absent parent, accepting complete lack of attention as the way things are and never forming any interests, and hundreds of other issues big and small.I wrote in my review of a Waking the Tiger by Peter A Levine that Levine sees traumatic fight flight as a natural response to events and that the problems arise only when the higher rational neo cortex gets stuck in its release of that trauma after the triggering event has passed Walker might agree The toxic inner critic, through flashbacks and shame, not only keeps the emotions from the triggering events fresh, but through random happenstance adds many others via association It can really be ANYTHING, the color of a car, mustaches, broken objects, dirt, a reoccurring dream The effect is what matters The mind recalls unresolved toxic experiences often just the emotion, may take time to trace the source , ruminates on them, and starts to feel guilt, and many other emotions that ultimately puts the one experiencing into the 4F responses A sequence of triggered negative thinking often called a shame spiral Typically self inflicted, though, toxic relationships may fuel this inner dialogue as a means of control.The effects of such a flashback can be observed in MRI, it is an over activation of the right brain where emotion and childhood memory reside and greatly deactivated left brain activity in the areas of reason There is a saying, to be in your right mind, which is used to suggest mental stability But in this case, being too much in the right mind creates emotional struggles deprived of reason.The basis of healing is often to restore a healthy level of anger for self defense Anger is also a right brain emotion, that properly directed, can aggressively short circuit the inner critic not by attacking the self but outward to irrational fears, and toxic relationships A luxury a small dependent child can t use to protect against a toxic environment, but an adult can A left brained, objective approach of embracing critic is rarely helpful unless it is balanced with subjective, right brained capacity for assertive self protection Perhaps this is because the inner critic appears to operate simultaneously with right brain flashback dynamics Perhaps toxic inner critic processes are so emotionally overwhelming that efforts to resist them rationally and dispassionately are too weak to be effective p 183The therapy would then extend to grieving for the pain and loss, and then using techniques of mindfulness and self compassion to restore order in the mind The last step actually leads to increasing the connective network between left and right brain so that the two can resolve issues in conjunction.At the heart of an effective treatment is a trusted relationship This relationship should provide a safe and empathetic connection to help sit with the affects Attachment disorder often accompanies cPTSD So the first step in attaching to unsettled mind, is connecting to a trustful and safe model.Walker writes,without the development of a modicum of trust with me, my cPTSD clients are seriously delimited in their receptivity to my guidance, as well as the ameliorative effects of my empathyFour keys to development of trust for a therapist also acts as modeling Empathy through listening, mirroring, paraphrasing, validation of emotions Authentic Vulnerability I am a vulnerable person like you but can model that it is safe to feel and express all emotions, balanced emotional self disclosure, Dialogicality a balanced conversation between speaking and listening, not just therapist lecturing or client rambling but a conversation that works toward feelings and then feeling the affects, and Collaborative Relationship Repair Walker states,probably the most transformative, intimacy building process that a therapist can modelMisattunements and disaffection are common to every relationship of substance Working through the disaffection, while immediately affecting safety of relationship, can be a deeper relationship through the fair weather friend stage.Walker is a practitioner with decades of experience, much of that comes through, he can repeat same ideas in different ways so may need to read then skip about This is not a be all, end all, just one practitioner s framing of his counseling experience There is not a particular method no copyrighted and protected system like Levine as much as it provides a basis around which the problems of trauma treatment might be discussed This is a long book but he is careful to identify how many of our toxic thoughts manifest themselves Absolutely excellent Anyone who had an abusive neglectful childhood should read this book, whether you have a formal diagnosis of CPTSD or not Practical advice on learning to be free from toxic shame and the inner critic. become an unflinching source of kindness and self compassion for yourself Excellent read on how an abusive childhood has had a profound impact on you And not just a broken bones CPS got involved kind of childhood, but a childhood with parents who had minimal attunement, who were sharp tonguedoften than not, who had addictions, even if those addictions were seemingly under control they weren t The book also speaks clearly on specific ways to walk yourself to healing, to a life that become an unflinching source of kindness and self compassion for yourself Excellent read on how an abusive childhood has had a profound impact on you And not just a broken bones CPS got involved kind of childhood, but a childhood with parents who had minimal attunement, who were sharp tonguedoften than not, who had addictions, even if those addictions were seemingly under control they weren t The book also speaks clearly on specific ways to walk yourself to healing, to a life that makessense to you.The part I especially appreciated was the down to earth descriptions of how trauma affects the brain and thought process How seemingly a lovely day can go into chaos, leaving the person feeling ashamed and chagrined at their behavior, when all along it was happening at a subtle micro level.The explanations of that micro level and how to tune in to yourself and be in compassionate space while doing it makes this book worththan gold.I sincerely would suggest this book to anyone struggling right now I also hope this map will guide you to heal in a way that helps you become an unflinching source of kindness and self compassion for yourself, When fear is the dominant emotion in a flashback the person feels extremely anxious, panicky or even suicidal Many dysfunctional parents react contemptuously to a baby or toddler s plaintive call for connection and attachment Contempt is extremely traumatizing to a child, and at best, extremely noxious to an adult Contempt is a toxic cocktail of verbal and emotional abuse, a deadly amalgam of denigration, rage and disgust Rage creates fear, and disgust creates shame in the child in a way that soon teaches her to refrain from crying out, from ever asking for attention Before long, the child gives up on seeking any kind of help or connection at all The child s bid for bonding and acceptance is thwarted, and she is left to suffer in the frightened despair of abandonment Those who are repetitively traumatized in childhood often learn to survive by over using one or two of the 4F Reponses Fixation in any one 4F response not only limits our ability to access all the others, but also severely impairs our ability to relax into an undefended state Additionally, it strands us in a narrow, impoverished experience of life NOTE this book is good for therapists, clients and people trying to help themselves and or a loved one Don t let the therpaist talk scare you off.That being said This book is by a therapist, not a researcher, and therefore needs a bit of a disclaimer Read on if you re so inclinedSome therapists come to the work as somewhat normal well adjusted folk They heal by sharing their stability, training, intelligence, evidence and good old common sense Others come to this work having gone NOTE this book is good for therapists, clients and people trying to help themselves and or a loved one Don t let the therpaist talk scare you off.That being said This book is by a therapist, not a researcher, and therefore needs a bit of a disclaimer Read on if you re so inclinedSome therapists come to the work as somewhat normal well adjusted folk They heal by sharing their stability, training, intelligence, evidence and good old common sense Others come to this work having gone through some terrible ordeal, and hopefully emerged from the recovery process with something uniquely personal, and powerfully inspirational to contribute They heal by sharing their hard earned experience, strength, hope and wise intuition.Other therapists are both and or somewhere in the middle They use their personal experiences of recovery as a foundation for the research and development of therapeutic techniques and modalities.They heal by putting their personal insights and wisdom under the microscope of critical thinking and evidence based methods That s the research is me search model And Pete Walker the author of this book is somewhere in this camp He s open about his own recovery process This book is clearly the product of personal experience And that s a powerful and good thing Although, far from perfect, and somewhat home spun, this book represents the authors good enough efforts at bringing clarity and precision to the still murky subject of developmental trauma and subsequent Complex PTSD.And it s good It s really good Developmental trauma and Complex PTSD refer to the type of small t as opposed to CAPITAL T trauma, and the resulting symptoms that one can develop over a long period of exposure to chronic stressor s Take for example your standard fucked up childhood where there may not have been much or any overt abuse or neglect, but rather a longer term exposure to unpredictability, or pervasive emotional dysregulation In other words, there isn t any one thing you can recall as the thing that fucked you up There was just a fucked up or very fucked up situation that you adjusted to over the course of your development, and now you re somewhat or very out of step, or miss calibrated with the rest those lucky normal bastards people This type of exposure commonly leads to a general sense of unease mild to awful You know.When you re always waiting for the bottom to fall out Or you re always ready for the other shoe to drop No matter how objectively good the present situation is, you re always a little bit keyed up, on edge and suspicious That s called chronic hyper vigilance , and it s no way to live Other symptoms include that nagging feeling of inferiority, or shame, or a sense that you re broken, or unintegrated, or missing something that those other lucky normie kids just seem to have without trying That s called internalized abuse and neglect and it s a common outcome of exposure to an afore mentioned fucked up childhood Or a fucked up adolescence Or a fucked up culture, society, job, relationship, etc And again Toxic shame is no way to live There s great treatment for all of this And that s what this book is about The reason the Complex PTSD thing is murky, is because it s not officially recognized by the American Psychiatric Association APA and is thusly not in the APA s diagnostic manual the Bible of psychiatry the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, 5th ed DSM5.This means that the area is lacking the same level of discourse, evidence and research funding All that important good stuff In other words, it s outside of the mainstream of psychiatry Not necessarily a bad thing Not necessarily a good thing But a thing none the less The fact that the APA is somewhat conservative about their inclusion of Complex PTSD as a thing, means that people can get a little whipped up about the subject This leads to a sort of cult like atmosphere in the trauma treatment community where every little thing is conceptualized in terms of trauma, even bi polar and schizophrenic symptoms, and perhaps, most annoyingly, addiction News Flash not every aspect of addiction is related to trauma It s a complicated syndrome with biological, psychological and social risk and protective factors People in the trauma cult think that a you can cure every case of addiction by treating the underlying trauma, and b if the client reports no history of trauma, they are in denial A you can t.B cut it out That being said Complex PTSD whether you call it that, or by any other name, is clearly a real thing, and therapists need good ways to conceptualize, diagnose, educate and treat our clients that present with this very very real real real thing This book is a GREAT start It s good for therpaist and clients alike That s one of the major strengths of the text So get it Read it.Take what is useful.Pitch the rest And let s all of us join together in the hope of making this world a better place for healing and being Five Stars After reading this book and becomingaware of PTSD and C PTSD and all the initially pretentiously sounding terms like emotional flashbacks and bibliotherapy but later on revealing elusive emotional processes that are very little written about even in the world of psychology I can honestly say that I have come to regard Pete Walker as nothing less than a brilliant practitioner of psychotherapy specializing in C PTSD, which is grossly under diagnosed throughout the world, currently, but After reading this book and becomingaware of PTSD and C PTSD and all the initially pretentiously sounding terms like emotional flashbacks and bibliotherapy but later on revealing elusive emotional processes that are very little written about even in the world of psychology I can honestly say that I have come to regard Pete Walker as nothing less than a brilliant practitioner of psychotherapy specializing in C PTSD, which is grossly under diagnosed throughout the world, currently, but will probably be revealed soon as the root cause of many personality disorders such as narcissism, borderline bpd , cluster bs, dark triad, and dark tetrad Most brilliant works on psychology, as regarded by the world, typically from the 20th Century, tend to focus on different theories on human behavior, but they seldom assist individuals on the practical nature of psychotherapy This book does the latter Psychology and psychotherapy are not as foreign as the world has lead the public to believe This book changed my life.Highly, highly recommended for everybody with any kind of childhood trauma and that includes the devastating effects of the invisible, intangible emotional neglect by chronically stressed, distracted and otherwise occupied parents.Another brilliant and quite unique aspect of the book is the deep insight Pete Walker has in the traumatic origin of pathological narcissism and sociopathy.The way he shows in his empathetic, wise and deeply insightful style that both narc This book changed my life.Highly, highly recommended for everybody with any kind of childhood trauma and that includes the devastating effects of the invisible, intangible emotional neglect by chronically stressed, distracted and otherwise occupied parents.Another brilliant and quite unique aspect of the book is the deep insight Pete Walker has in the traumatic origin of pathological narcissism and sociopathy.The way he shows in his empathetic, wise and deeply insightful style that both narcissistic abusers and their co dependent victims are bred by the same family systems is absolutely brilliant and resonant There are less than 20 books i can think of that actually changed my life, and this is one of them.Pete Walker outlines in clear understandable language what contributes to C PTSD This is definitely a layman s book and thank god, it s free from the endless anecdotes that infest most popular self help or psychology books that populate the ranks ofbest sellers.Dr Walker uses examples from his own life with humility and insight a refreshing change from the hectoring and condescending There are less than 20 books i can think of that actually changed my life, and this is one of them.Pete Walker outlines in clear understandable language what contributes to C PTSD This is definitely a layman s book and thank god, it s free from the endless anecdotes that infest most popular self help or psychology books that populate the ranks ofbest sellers.Dr Walker uses examples from his own life with humility and insight a refreshing change from the hectoring and condescending tone found in this genre.I had to read this book several times to absorb the information and come to discomfiting realizations about my own life Thanks to this book, I went on to further research on the topic of developmental trauma, and am learningevery week Excellent book on a very hard topic I have Complex PTSD Cptsd and wrote this book from the perspective of someone who has experienced a great reduction of symptoms over the years I also wrote it from the viewpoint of someone who has discovered many silver linings in the long, windy, bumpy road of recovering from Cptsd I felt encouraged to write this book because of thousands of e mail responses to the articles on my website that repeatedly expressed gratitude for the helpfulness of my work An often echoed comment sounded like this At last someone gets it I can see now that I am not bad, defective or crazy or alone The causes of Cptsd range from severe neglect to monstrous abuse Many survivors grow up in houses that are not homes in families that are as loveless as orphanages and sometimes as dangerous If you felt unwanted, unliked, rejected, hated and or despised for a lengthy portion of your childhood, trauma may be deeply engrained in your mind, soul and body This book is a practical, user friendly self help guide to recovering from the lingering effects of childhood trauma, and to achieving a rich and fulfilling life It is 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